Beginner skills. Privacy.

I am a very competitive person! I have learn to have very good skills at universities and at work, I have learned to learn the novel techniques, to understand, to have my own ideas, to specialize in certain stuff and become a pro. 
But this is not the topic I wanted to talk about  ...the idea that I need to highlight  on and which I wish to point out is that every single person of those brilliant people I know in different areas ( the gods) never excel in privacy ... I had never excel in love, I am a very weak on this thing, I am not lucky ... I am still looking for a way to learn the beginner skills.